Put people to where they belong

I was with my friend when this thing occur to my mind. She tells another friend of mine that she looks cute in that plain sport t-shirt *which usually makes us looks like a nerdy nerd little school girl. I told her, "don't say that to her, u might make her feel shy". My friend said.

"Let her know that she's cute. It's not a crime."

From that day onwards, I observe people around me, and reflect my past.

There was this time, when I was in religion school, while waiting to perform my prayer, I told my friend that her other friend is beautiful. This person I spoke with is also beautiful, but she has an attitude which I don't really favor. What is it? Let me tell the whole story. After I told her about her friend, she looked at me and smile.

"She's not beautiful Asiah, she is just cute, not beautiful. There are a lot of category of nice-to-see-face, and she's not beautiful."

I can just say that she's beautiful, because she surely is. But i just can't bring myself to compliment her, because she expect me to put her to the higher place than her 'cute' friend has been placed. See. How can she said that about her own friend? I can't tell much about beauty. It is subjective. Maybe to her scale, she's beautiful, and her friend is just cute. But to my opinion, I can assume, her beauty lessen by her attitude.

Why would we want to put people to where they belong? simple.

IT'S WHERE THEY SHOULD BE.

"Do not reject good idea from whom you don't like."

This is another thing I learnt. We tend to reject ideas which came from our enemy, or rival. Why is that so? Because we hate them. Isn't that obvious? Maybe we should start to see things from another angle. Maybe their ideas is not so bad at all. Hate the person, don't hate their ideas.

Of all things that should be put in their place, to condemn people is one thing which we should not put in the appropriate place. I mean, if you saw one super-hideous person pass by, would you go and tell him. " You are a one hideous creature ". That would be so bad.....

There are some things which can and cannot be put on their place. If we think by putting it on it's right place, the world will be a better place, then, do the deed, put it to where it belong. If we are sure it will make this world grew bitter, just swallow the words, and forget about it.

"Kalau takde benda baik nak kata, baik diam."

*pesanan untuk diri sendiri juga ye Asiah, si kaki gosip.

SMILE & TEARS

Both smile and tears play significant role in expressing emotion. From what I learnt in Emotion Management, it is proven across culture that laughing is an expression of happiness and crying is an expression of sadness. But in some other time and situation, different things could happen; it happens the other way around.

Tear is a tool of expressing feelings. Most of the time, it became a manifestation of sadness. But there are some other times people would cry of happiness. ‘Tears of joy’ some would say. I have witnessed it a few times. A friend of mine can’t help it but to cry after a moment of laughing. Amazing how one would cry out of happiness. But I take it as her expression of being super happy on that particular time. That proves that we are having a real good moment together as friends that she can move to tears from a wackiest laugh. That’s fine with my other friends and me.

‘Tears of joy’. I first heard of it when I watch a drama of one who had just deliver a baby. Most mothers would cry just after they hold their babies. Delivering babies is a miracle I would say. Just amazing of how a human being lives in and came out from a mother. That situation and feeling’s indescribable. Not that I have give birth to a baby, it just that, looking at a baby makes me feel the happiness that the mother felt. I would love to feel that one day.

To see one cry out of happiness is soothing enough but if it happens the other way around? What would you say?

One could laugh the loudest, wackiest and in most ridiculous way to hide her true feelings. I read somewhere; it says ‘when one smiles when she is supposed to cry, she is actually holding her most inner sadness inside’. *Something like that. It’s real hard to tell if one is in deep sad feelings when she is laughing. Maybe they are just not ready to share or maybe she thought that there’s not use of shedding tears for things which had happened. Or maybe it’s just too deep to bring it out surface.

I also share the same experience with a friend who tends to hide his sadness with a laugh. We hang out, we laugh, we smile, we talk, and I can’t trace a single sparks of sadness in his presence. He is almost the same as other friends that I talked to. One day, he told me that he is facing the hardest moment in his life. His family is breaking up, and he can’t do anything about that. That’s a big test for anyone who just can’t afford to lose grip. But he survived. I am happy and grateful that he can overcome what had happened.

I have some of those experience myself. Just when I want to cry hard, the tears just won’t come. I can literally feels the bitterness in my throat, but not a single tear came out. I swallow what I felt. Now I know that in the hardest moment and situation, our mind and consciousness tells us not to break down. Just breathe and pray that it would be okay. Thank God, I feel better then, and now.

Maybe in some rare moment, we tend to hide what we feel because it is too big and private to share with other. But we must never forget that there are a lot of people who are willing to share our happiness and sadness. Sadness which is shared became thinner; happiness which is shared became thicker.

SHARING IS CARING.

Jot down what you are grateful for

1. To be born in a big happy family.

2. To be name 'ASIAH HARON'. I love the sound of it. Like a product.

3. To have been introduced 'Lemon Tree' song by my sister-Achom, for that was one of the reason I want to learn English.

4. To have been allowed to be boyish when I was a little girl, I can experience more than just playing with Barbie.

5. To be sent to 'tempat mengaji Cik Pin. Alhamdulillah, I can read Holy-Quran.

6. To be introduced to Coldplay by my brother .I now know what types of music fit my ears well.

7. To be in a puppy love with him. I get lots of poem. Tq.

8. To be forced to enter High School/form 6 by my father.

*and here I am at UKM.

9. To know my best friend, Azie, -went through crazy stuff together.

10. To broke up with him when I'm in the middle of work.

*less time to be in self-pity situation.

11. To be blessed with great health, no serious illness.

* Tonsillitis is consider minor

12. To have good companion here, right now.

MADAT

Most of all, I am grateful to Allah s.w.t for he is the reason why I have this happiness and so many more to experience. Alhamdulillah.

Bismillahirahmanirahim

Assalammualaikum.

Ini bukan kali pertama berblog. Tapi terasa mahu memulakan semua semula.

"Kalau kita jatuh, kita bangun semula."

Macam tu lah. Bangun semula dan menulis. Selama ni aku menulis. Tapi tak publish. Banyak sangat da aku tulis. *semua boleh gune ke? Nanti aku cube upload semua yang mungkin boleh dipakai kat sini. Takde apa yang menarik. Cume berkongsi apa yang aku nampak, rasa dan pikirkan tentang sesuatu perkara khusus yang terjadi di keliling aku. Tentang kawan-kawan, tentang kehidupan, tentang apa juga yang aku belajar.

Aku kat sini bukan untuk mengutuk, mengata, mengumpat atau men'judge' sesiapa. I see people like I see them. Paham ke? Aku pon tak paham sangat apa aku cakap tu. Macam ni. Aku memang diajar, di'train' untuk menjadi critical. *Adik beradik banyak memang la macam ni. Jadi, dalam setiap keadaan aku cube fikirkan apa yang patot. Kadang-kadang apa yang aku keluarkan kat mulut dan ekspresi muka tu tak seperti apa yang aku fikirkan. Tapi selalunya aku memang tak pandai menyembunyikan apa yang aku rasa. Itu kata orang. Tapi ada je orang yang salah tafsir apa aku rasa. Tak apa.

Semua orang ada pandangan masing-masing. Terpulang mereka. Selalu aku akan kata. Kalau aku nak dengar sangat cakap mereka, tak boleh hidup lah. Kalau aku jatuh, ada mereka nak sambut? Kalau aku sedih, ada mereka nak comfort? Kalau aku lapar, ada mereka nak feed? TAKDE. Jadi, aku buat tak kisah je lah kan.

Semua orang pon patot buat macam tu kot.

Dikala kebosanan melanda hati dan diri, aku cuba mencuba sesuatu yang baru. Aku buat apa?

"Buat tak tau."

Nak buat apa lagi pon. Takde apa lagi yang lebih best aku rasa. Kalau ada orang lain yang boleh nak buat macam aku, aku nak share dengan mereka. Mana tau esok lusa bila bosan kita boleh buat tak tau sama-sama.

Cukup dulu untuk post pertama. Aku pon tak banyak sangat benda nak cakap. Nanti ada yang menarik melintas kotak fikiran aku, aku tulis lagi. Atau aku keluarkan lah benda berhabuk kat dalam laptop aku ni. Buat sekarang, ini dulu.

CIAO!!